What To Do If Your Year Didn't Get Off To The Best Start

We are now nearly a quarter of the way through 2018! After what felt like the longest January ever, February went super quickly and March is heading the same way. I'm incredibly thankful that this year, I feel like I am achieving things and moving forwards. However, for the past few years, by the time March came rolling around, I felt like I was a failure, that I was never going to hit my goals and that yet another year of my life was going to be a complete write off.

If your year didn't get off to the best start, or you've yet to make any progression on your aspirations for the year, DON'T WORRY! There's still over 75% of the year left to make things happen. Here are some ideas on what you can do to ensure the rest of 2018 is your best year yet.

Assess where you are right now 
Why do you feel like 2018 hasn't been good to you so far? Have you experienced a personal tragedy? Were you unprepared when the clock struck midnight on the 31st December? Have you hit an unexpected bump in the road?

Set aside some time to look at where your life is now, and where you want your life to be. How different are these to each other? Until you have a clear idea of the gap between where you are and where you want to be, it can be hard to work out your next steps.

List your ideas about the way you want 2018 to go
Write a list about all the things you think you might like to do in 2018 - you don't have to do everything you write on this list, this is more an exercise to help you realise what might be possible this year. For example, my own list of goals for 2018 started off as a very vague list of ideas:

  • Eat healthier
  • Get more exercise
  • Learn to drive
  • Blog more
  • Travel more
  • Choose happiness

Turn your list into concrete goals 
Now that you have a vague idea of the type of year you'd like to have, it's time to start turning your ideas into goals. Good goals are SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Timebound. In short, your goals need to be realistic, you need to be able to tell when you've achieved them and you need to set a deadline for them.

For example, if your goal is to eat healthier, you might set yourself the SMART goal of ensuring you eat at least one portion of fruit or veg with every meal and snack you eat each day by 1st June 2018.

Start taking action
Earlier this year, I blogged a lot about the importance of going out and actually living your life, rather than falling into the trap of always planning but never actually bringing those plans to life. A good plan is a good foundation for achievement, but you can't forget to actually do the things you need to do to get where you want to be.

Accept that life will never be perfect
One of my biggest downfalls is that the second anything goes wrong in my life, for example I have a day where my mood is very low or I get a cold so I can't do the things I'd planned to do that day, I assume that this is it, this is the end, my life is over. I'm a bit of a perfectionist, and I feel like I've failed if things aren't good for me all the time. There's a very annoying belief in my head that one day, I will be happy and I will never be unhappy again - but obviously, this will never be the case because that's not the way life works.

Overcoming the idea of perfect is one I imagine I will be working on for the rest of my life, but the older I get, the more I'm learning to deal with it and not give in when things go wrong or unexpectedly.

These are just a few of the things I do when I feel like I've hit a brick wall in my personal development and need to reset. If you're reading this post the day it goes live, or 75% of the way through the year, I hope it can help you get going again.

Do I Have To Be Accomplished?

I don't know about you, but every time I log onto social media, I am confronted by the idea of the "Girl Boss". All around me, fellow women are "killing it". There are bloggers landing book deals, working with amazing brands and pushing out great content on a daily basis. This places huge emphasis on accomplishment and achievement and I've been constantly asking myself: "do we have to be accomplished?"

Don't get me wrong, I love seeing other people doing well and achieving their dreams. I will never not clap for the people I love when they're absolutely smashing it, but I think this current obsession with "bossing it" can get unhealthy. Everybody needs a break sometimes for the sake of both their mental and physical health. 

I have dreams. I have goals. I want to be successful - but my definition of success is likely very different to your version of success. To me success isn't owning my own business, earning millions, driving a fast car or living in a house that's far too big. I consider myself successful when my basic human needs are taken care of, I can afford to treat myself and I'm happy.

Some of us are much happier just doing enough to put a roof over our heads and food on our table. When I finish work for the day, I have finished work. I'd rather use my free time to pursue the things I enjoy, instead of relentlessly trying to achieve things for the sake of looking accomplished.

We don't have to be girl bosses. We don't all need to hustle 24/7. It's OK if your job is just a job rather than a career that others aspire to. It's absolutely fine if you spend your spare time watching TV or curled up with a novel. You don't have to be working towards a goal every minute, every hour, every day.

I guess the message I am trying to get across is you do you. If "you" is constantly outdoing yourself, then carry on. If you is living a slower, calmer life where you quietly pursue the things you want to pursue, then continue to live your life. You are not any less of a human being if your accomplishments are different the accomplishments of other people. 

Makeup Revolution New-trals vs. Neutrals Eyeshadow Palette [Product Review]

My favourite colour in the whole wide world is pink, and I just love pink eyeshadow. Sadly, until recently, finding an eyeshadow palette with mostly pink shades in it was very difficult. When I first spotted the Makeup Revolution New-trals vs. Neutrals Eyeshadow Palette, I was drawn to the large number of pink tones in it. At just £6.99, it was a no brainer, I had to have it.

As you can probably see from the pictures, the lettering on the palette does not stand up to the test of time. However, when a palette costs less than a tenner, I'm really not that bothered about the packaging remaining pristine.

I suppose what's important is how the product inside performs.

In terms of performance, each shade is a bit hit and miss. Generally, the lighter shades of the palette are not as good as the darker shades. They lack pigment and it requires a lot more product to build up to the colour you want. However, I really, really like the darker shades. You barely need to use any product at all to get a really deep, intense colour.

The shade range is really versatile. You can great soft, subtle and delicate looks, or go seriously grungy and smoky. This means I get a lot of wear out of it.

The Makeup Revolution New-trals vs. Neutrals Eyeshadow Palette is a really great little buy and although it's not quite as good as my Urban Decay and Too Faced palettes, it's also a fraction of the price and the shade range was exactly what I was looking for when I bought it. Recommended!

Vintage Clothing Haul

A few months ago, I spotted an advert on my Facebook feed for a "Preloved Kilo" event. At this point, I'd never heard of a vintage kilo sale in my life and was intrigued by the idea. Basically, at a vintage kilo sale, you are given a bag and access to a room full of clothing. You then fill the bag with clothing you like and pay a fixed price per kilogram of clothing you pick up. At the Preloved Kilo event, the price per kilo was just £15.

The event was way back in September now, but I wear everything I picked up on a regular basis and I just had to share my bargains with the world. Preloved Kilo hold regular events all across the UK so it's worth checking out their Facebook page to see if there's one near you soon. Other organisations also hold these types of sale, so it's well worth a Google.

Here's what I picked up:

There was a whole stand of massive, cosy looking jumpers to root through and when I saw this funky 80s patterned one in my favourite colours, pink and black, obviously I had to have it. Jumpers are of course a risky choice when you're paying for things by weight, but I still paid way less than I would have done at somewhere like Topshop.

Next point of call was the dress rail, which was super long! It took me a good long time to work my way through it. I picked up a lot of dresses, but in the end, it was only this pink and black number that came home with me. I tried others on but the fit wasn't right or I wasn't sure how I would work it into my wardrobe. It doesn't matter though because the dress I did take home is now one of my favourite outfits ever. I was so lucky that it fits so well and it makes me feel really cute. The only annoying thing about it is it requires a lot ironing - it seems to crease just as soon as I look at it.

After dresses, it was time to stock up on blouses. During uni I was known for my collection of shirts and blouses, but after putting on weight in the past few years (and growing a set of boobs, at last, hooray!), none of my blouses from that part of my life fit me anymore. Blouses are super light, so at £15 a kilogram, I knew this was the perfect time to restock my wardrobe with my signature item.

I think the blouse selection my favourite part of the day. It was a seriously hard task trying to limit myself to a sensible number that I would actually wear on a regular basis. Naturally, all but one of the ones that made the cut were pink. The black and white polka dot one however, is super cute.

I also looked at skirts, but unfortunately none of the ones I liked were the right size for me. That's just the luck of the draw with this kind of event! All in all, my sack of clothes was under 2kg, and I paid around £26 for it. I couldn't be happier with my little haul!

Here are some mirror pictures of the outfits I've created with my buys (I regularly share the outfits I wear over on my Instagram stories):

Preloved Kilo is coming to Reading again in April, just in time to stock up on clothes for my USA trip. I can't wait!

What I Learnt During Veganuary

Like thousands of other people, I decided to adopt a vegan diet during January this year. I amazed myself by sticking to it for 29 out of 31 days. Generally, when I try to eat a certain way, I crack during the first day, so this was really quite the achievement for me.

I've since decided to eat vegan 99% of the time - only buying vegan food from the supermarkets and preparing vegan food at home. When eating out with friends, I will treat myself to something non-vegan if I really don't fancy any of the vegan options on the menu or there aren't any available. I know many hardcore vegans will see this as a cop out but hey, I'm just doing what I can to contribute to a better planet for us all.

During my Veganuary, I learnt a lot of things about being vegan - some I was expecting from reading the experience of other vegans, some I wasn't.

There is hidden milk in EVERYTHING
OK, not quite everything, but a surprising amount of products have milk in. I was actually caught out twice by this, I came home from the supermarket with bread rolls that contained milk (despite deliberately avoiding my usual brioche burger buns!!!) and it was also in the coconut milk powder I like to use, much to my horror. Milk also manages to sneak its way into crisps and even dark chocolate!

You spend six times longer in the supermarket
After getting caught out by surprise milk for the second time, I decided that was not going to happen again and started reading labels obsessively whilst I was doing my shopping. I used to be in and out of the supermarket in 10 minutes max thanks to my shopping lists which I write in the order that I go round the shop but now, because I have to stop and double check labels, I tend to spend about an hour in there.

Vegan cheese tastes better cooked
Vegan mozzarella on a pizza is great. Vegan parmesan stirred into your pasta sauce is great. Violife slices melted onto your burger and into your quesadillas are great.

Violife slices in a sandwich you haven't toasted? NO THANK YOU. Blergh.  I recommend you don't smell the vegan cheese either before you cook it.

There are no replacements for feta
Believe me, I tried. I found a recipe for homemade vegan feta made from tofu and that was terrible. I tried Sainsbury's Free From version of feta, that was awful. I tried the Sheese version. That was sadly a nope. I think that really solidified the point that vegan cheese is better cooked.

I much prefer plant milks 
I've never been a massive milk fan. In fact it was only a few years ago that I stopped crying if milk happened to touch me. Yeah, seriously. I've never ever eaten it on cereal or had it as a drink in its own right, but I would have a tiny, tiny drop of it in my tea, that's all.

Plant milks are another story. I LOVE almond milk, and I've recently developed a fondness for coconut milk. I also tried oat milk during January and whilst it isn't one of my favourites, it's also like a million times better than dairy milk.

Even if the rest of my vegan lifestyle falls apart, I'm not ever going back to cow's milk.

I don't need cheese and chocolate as much as I thought I did 
Before embarking on Veganuary, I literally ate cheese and milk chocolate every single day. I wish I was exaggerating, but I'm not. I was convinced that I would be utterly miserable without those two things in my life. The funny thing is, I was consistently happy throughout the entirety of January. Clearly, I do not need cheese and chocolate. Sure, I dabbled in vegan alternatives (Vego chocolate bars are insanely delicious, highly recommended), but I've finally managed to change my mindset to view chocolate as a treat, not a daily staple. I'm also much better at planning meals that don't require cheese for them to feel complete.

The best thing is, I've had a massive craving for brie for the past fortnight, and I've yet to give in. I'm so much stronger than I thought I was.

How inexpensive veganism is depends on your approach
I'm really not sure where the idea that veganism is super expensive has come from. Unless you live in a food desert, the healthiest vegan foods, e.g. fresh veggies and wholegrains, are actually the cheapest foods to buy.

Of course, I personally think that the transition to a vegan diet is much easier if you adapt the meals you already eat into vegan versions and a lot of the time, this is easiest if you use meat and cheese substitutes. Foods like Violife, Quorn and Linda McCartney items are not cheap, but they're also not much more expensive than buying meat and cheese, if at all. If you're already eating a varied diet, with lots of different meats and cheeses in the meals you cook from scratch, then you can afford to go vegan.

For January, my food shopping expenditure was round about the same as it was when I was eating meat, but the overall amount of money I spent on food in January was so much lower because I wasn't having takeaways anymore - I was way more interested in home cooked vegan food.

During February, the amount I spent on food was significantly lower than it was when I was eating meat, because I started batch cooking my meals on a Sunday night as well as continuing my vegan diet.

If you've been thinking about going vegan, do your research first 
I think one of the reasons I was so successful during Veganuary was because I actually decided I was going to do it about four months before I actually did it. A lot of my family members are vegan and I noticed an increasing number of other bloggers were adopting the lifestyle as well and this is what increased my awareness of how brutal the dairy industry actually is. I had been considering the health benefits of veganism for a much, much longer time - the ethical side was something that only came into my consciousness more recently.

I decided to research everything to do with being vegan. The potential health benefits, the cruelty involved in animal farming and most importantly, I sat down and meticulously planned what I was going to replace the things I would be removing from my diet with.

If I hadn't spent literally months planning how I was going to make going vegan work in my life, I never, ever would have managed to do as well as I am doing.

If you are considering going vegan yourself, I'd be happy to have a chat with you. I am not a perfect vegan, nor am I an expert but I am honest about my experiences with it and I won't judge you. I also really recommend signing up to receive emails from Veganuary - their daily emails in January kept me motivated and enlightened me on lots of issues.

The Things I'm Glad I Grew Out Of

As we get older, we all grow out of things. We get too big for our clothes, we get bored of playing with Barbie dolls and we stop crying for our mummies when something slightly inconvenient happens.

We grow out of other things too, some of which, I am particularly glad about. I will admit there are days where I wish I could go back to playing in the park and cuddling Cheezer (see the picture above!) for comfort, but here are some things that I am so glad I grew out of.

The idea that someone has to know every single song off by heart, including obscure, unreleased songs, if they're gonna wear a band tshirt 
I recently noticed that Primark has started selling band tshirts, like Guns N Roses and AC/DC. In fact, there was a Nirvana one a few months ago that I really regret not buying.

The thing is, just a few years ago, this would have infuriated me because it inevitably leads to people who wear these tshirts as a fashion statement, rather than people wearing the shirts because they really like the band.

Now that I'm a bit older, and I hope a bit wiser, I've realised that in the grand scheme of things, this is a really petty and silly thing to get annoyed about. Who cares if someone wears a Guns N Roses tshirts when the only song they've heard is Sweet Child O Mine?  It literally has no impact on my life.

Assuming I'm being copied if someone else likes the same obscure bands as me 
In my early/mid teens, I finally started to develop my own music taste that wasn't based on what my friends or my brother were listening to. I was incredibly proud of my discoveries, which often consisted of bands that were not very well known at all in the circles I ran in. However, rather than being excited when two girls at school started showing up wearing the same band shirts as me, I immediately got very defensive. They were my bands, how DARE these girls copy me?! There's noooo way they could have discovered them by themselves, they were clearly obsessed with me.

I'm super embarrassed that this was my mindset now and these days, if I spot someone in a Sleater-Kinney top or a Murderdolls hoodie, I go crazy and desperately try to think of non-creepy ways to approach them and make friends with them.

Drinking alcohol that tastes gross 
When I first started getting drunk, I would drink whatever I could get my hands on for the sake of getting drunk, even if it was something that is absolutely vile like vodka and energy drink, blergh. Like most..erm, young adults, when it came to alcohol, it was being drunk that counted, not drinking alcohol because you enjoyed the taste.

I'm pleased to say that now, even on the nights where I genuinely do want to be SMASHED, I make sure I do it drinking only drinks I really love. No more vodka for me! Just pink moscato wine, rum cocktails and fruity cider for me please.

Being obnoxious in public 
I don't know about you, but as a teenager, I was loud and obnoxious in public. I distinctly remember getting on the train to Manchester one day with a group of friends and loudly declaring how disgusting and selfish it was when lone travellers sat at the tables of four on the train. Multiple people offered to let me and my friends sit at the table they were on, and I declined with a sickeningly fake smile on my face saying no no it's quite alright despite my outburst which everyone on the train - not just that carriage - will have heard. WHY was I like that?!

Did you have any embarrassing or just plain awful habits when you were a little younger? What are you glad you grew out of?