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A few weeks ago, I participated in my first ever #bbloggers Twitter chat. Although I've been using the #bbloggers hashtag for a while now and I have been known to dip in and out of conversations when I see something that I have something to say about, this was the first time I actively participated for the full hour. This particular chat was all about blogging goals and what you want for your blog in 2013. One thing that kept cropping up again and again and again in the chat was the fact that people didn't tell people in real life about their blog. I replied to a lot of people and Tweeted generally about this, because my own personal view on this is that blogs are made for sharing. However, I haven't always felt this way and I still do feel a little bit apprehensive about talking to new people about my blog.

Although I had my own website from age 11, I'd say I only really starting blogging in 2009. Up until around halfway through last year though, I didn't really talk to anyone about my blog. However, when I moved back to Wakefield in June, my blog became my main hobby and I had huge amounts of time to work on it. The more of my time it began to take up, the more I realised it wasn't something I could keep secret anymore, and as time went on, I realised I didn't even want it to be a secret. After all, anyone who knows me in real life knows I love fashion and beauty and blogging is something I really, truly love doing - so why would I want to keep it secret? Especially when I spend so much time and put so much effort into blogging! I suppose I kept it secret to begin with because it was originally something I only did every now and again, I wasn't as dedicated to it then as I am now, and therefore my blog wasn't a source of pride for me. I was also unsure about whether other people would "get it" or not. My YouTube videos in particular were something I was very self conscious about. I didn't want to be perceived as vain. I didn't know how to justify photographing and filming myself at all.

Fast forward to now: everyone knows about my blog. My family like my Facebook page and read my blog on a regular basis. My friends are getting used to me photographing food and drinks. People regularly tell me they liked a recent post. My sister sometimes takes my outfit photographs for me. Last time I filmed a video, I felt comfortable enough to tell my mum and sisters to please be quiet and remain upstairs for a while because I was busy filming. That would have never happened a few months ago. And do you know what? My life is better because of this. Now that my family is aware of my blog, I don't feel self conscious about heading out into the garden with my tripod. When I emerge from my room wearing a particularly bright lipstick, no one asks what on earth I'm doing anymore. People come to me for product recommendations. It's so nice to NOT have this secret life hanging over my head. I used to feel like I led two different lives: online Emily and offline Emily, now the two blend together wonderfully.

Therefore, my advice to you reading this if you are a secret blogger yourself is to start telling people about your blog! You don't have to shove it down people's throats and you don't have to tell everyone. I'm still apprehensive about telling people at work about my job or people I don't know as well as others. Personally though, I have found that people are very supportive when you do tell them. Some people are really genuinely interested in it. Ultimately, it can gain much, much, much more exposure for your blog if you're not trying to hide it from anyone you know in real life. At the end of the day, if you're ashamed of your blog, why are you writing it in the first place?

So, fellow bloggers, do you openly talk about your blog?