The Vixen Thinks: Why Learning to Love Yourself Isn't Just Important, It's NECESSARY


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I ramble on about the topic of loving yourself a fair bit. While I don't think I've actually mentioned it much on this blog, I'd talk about it a lot on my old blog and I still Tweet and ReTweet a lot of things related to the subject. Not to mention the amount of time I spend reading about loving yourself and caring about yourself! It's a subject very close to my heart and while I still have off days, I feel I'm now finally at a point where I'm my own best friend and my life is inherently much better for it. Now I'm not talking about being narcissistic (although a little narcissism is healthy at times!). I'm not talking about being vain and doing things such as not being able to walk past a mirror without looking in it or being boastful or downright egotistical. No, when I talk about self love I'm talking about accepting yourself for who you are. Being your own best friend. Caring about yourself, both physically and emotionally. It's all about doing what's best for you. 

So why is loving yourself so important? It can be summed up pretty quickly: how can you expect to be able to love anyone else if you can't love yourself? How can you expect anyone else to love you if you can't love yourself? Ultimately, it will cause problems for you if you don't have a very positive regard for yourself. First of all, your relationships with others will not  be very good, be it family, friends or your romantic interest. If you don't love yourself, you will begin to depend on others to feel loved. Once you start doing that, you start getting upset every time they don't meet your needs and this will inevitably happen. This causes arguments and tensions and ultimately only makes you unhappier as you value your worth depending on your relationships and your relationships are all deteriorating. Even if you don't worry about the love of others - it's still vitally important to love yourself. How can you expect to be happy if you're constantly berating yourself, putting yourself down, unhappy with the way you look or the way you are? It's just common sense that we need to love ourselves - we all want to be happy don't we?

How do we get to a point where we fall in love with ourselves then? In a day an age where respecting yourself is quite often seen as a bad thing, and we are all expected to fake modesty instead, it can be hard. Not to mention conflicting media telling us what body shape is good and what isn't. People judging you based on your job, your education. Your family trying to push you in a certain direction. A group of friends who all follow a certain path. We're all under a lot of pressure a lot of the time meaning it can be difficult to do what we know is really right for us. At the end of the day though, the biggest lesson you can learn is: only you know what is best for you. I've said this time and time again since I started this blog, and I will continue to repeat it, but once I realised that actually, no one else's opinion mattered, I just had to listen to my own intuition, my life improved vastly. I have a job that I love, I am happy with my relationships and I wake up every morning with a smile on my face. Because I'm living a life that is my choice, I feel very happy with myself.

Of course, it's not just as simple as this. There are numerous things that you can do to feel more at ease with yourself although for me, the biggest thing was deciding to live my life on my own terms. I'm debating the idea of doing a whole series of posts about how to be happy and in love with yourself, but then again, there's already so much out there on the subject, I think other people can say it better than I can! What do you think?