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In last week's Vixen Thinks Post, I spoke about the information we share, or don't share, on the internet and today post is going to be an expansion of this. Although I love the internet and everything it has done for my life, I sometimes think a lot of it is negative and what I want to talk about today isn't so positive. This particularly applies to bloggers but it's also applicable to anyone who uses social media. These days we do share so much of our lives online; when I graduated I gleefully posted my results on Facebook and Twitter. When I was promoted to Team Leader, again, I took to Facebook to announce this. We're all more than happy to share our good news with people and I don't think this in itself is a bad thing. I believe in sharing positivity and when someone shares some good news about themselves I'd much rather congratulate them than be bitter and jealous about it. But what about when things aren't so good? What about when we see people go from "in a relationship to single". What about results day and you notice someone hasn't posted anything about their results. I'd be lying if I said I didn't speculate when I see things like this and I'm pretty sure you would be too.
With so much of our lives laid out for the public to see, it's no wonder we all feel pressured to lead perfect lives. We all want to see like party animals on Facebook. Instagram makes us appear like we go out for dinner every day. I've realised a lot of people (myself included tbh) take to Twitter to have a good old moan. All this reminds me of something: it reminds me of celebrity gossip magazines. Tabloid newspapers. We now have the ability to watch real people living real lives in a way that was once reserved for celebrities. Social media allows us insights into life that are at times not unlike the was the press stalk famous people. It's not just Miss It Girl's relationship we speculate over anymore, it's so and so we went to school with. Suddenly, everyone is speculating and gossiping about your life just because you shared a part of it online.
All this creates unnecessary pressure on us all. I've certainly had my moments this year where things haven't been so good for me and knowing that my life is out there for everyone to read about made things even harder to deal with at times. I knew people had seen my relationship status change on Facebook. I kept getting "anonymous" messages on Tumblr asking how my "boyfriend" was. At a time where I really
Of course, I choose to blog. I choose have Facebook. I choose to Tweet details of my life. I'm prepared to deal with the consequences of this but I know not everyone is. As I reach a time in my life where I'm genuinely thinking children might be a part of my life within the next decade, I worry about what it's going to be like for them growing up. I see my 10 and 8 year old cousins playing Minecraft and owning mobile phones. I have my auntie asking me to show her how Facebook works because she knows it's only a matter of time before they start asking for Facebook accounts. While I have grown up with the internet, it has grown on such a massive scale since the days of downloading cool new breeds for "Catz" and "Dogz" and I know the world my own children, even my two youngest siblings, grow up in, is going to to be very, very different from my own childhood. I just hope they don't feel this pressure, I hope they don't have to suffer in public or feel pressured to live a dream life. Even now, I'm starting to think: what happens to my blog when I have children? In fact, what happens to my blog when I move out and start my new life - I'm not sure I want to be a pseudo-celebrity anymore!*
*this isn't me being vain, I mean this in a I know people who read my blog a lot and must think they know a lot about my life and speculate about it a lot. When I move out I want a proper fresh start and I don't know if blogging or social media can have a part in that...