#SBBC Day 12: Life Advice You Would Pass On To a Younger Family Member



I'm really not one for giving advice. I'm not a huge fan of receiving advice from others unless I have specifically asked for it and even when I ask for it, it's whole other question whether I'll take that advice. No, most of the time I rely on me. I rely on how I feel. I like to learn from experience. I've made some monumental mistakes over the years, but they've taught me so much and I doubt advice from anyone could have taught me as well as just throwing myself out there regardless of the consequences has done.

However, as a teenage girl particularly, there is one thing in particular I wish I had been told more often, and that is: do what you want to do. If you are in a situation that is making you unhappy but there is an escape clause on the horizon, take the escape clause. Don't listen to anyone who says different - you know what is best for you - and no one else does, nope, just you. Don't do what your friends are doing, don't do something that just feels easier. If you want out of something, you get out. If something doesn't feel right, if you feel like you're only doing something because it is expected of you and no one else has bothered to show you your other options go and find out about your options and do something just for you.

I'm not gonna tell you what to do instead of the path I took. I stayed on for Sixth Form and went to University simply because it was easier. It was expected of me and I never dared dream that there might be another way to live my life. In fact only ONE person said to me that if I didn't want to go to university then I didn't have to go and that one person wasn't even my crazy horrid manipulative boyfriend at the time. Don't get me wrong, I bloody loved my time at university and would love to relive it, but in terms of my future, it wasn't necessary. 

I'd hate for you to get hurt in the way I have been hurt. I hate the idea that you're gonna have to deal with false friends. I hate that you might do what you want today but regret that in the future. But I'm not gonna tell you what to do. I could try to advise you in the ways of love and friendship but you know and I know you're not going to take my advice and I say good. We all need to learn things for ourselves and wrapping everyone up and refusing to let them experience their life their way is never going to help.

I really didn't need to waffle on this much, because all I have to say to my younger family members is: do what you wanna do.