The Vixen Thinks: Doing What's Best For Yourself

Today's Vixen Thinks topic is one that is so relevant to me at the moment it hurts. Although this is going to be a very personal post from me, I hope that the message of doing what is best for yourself shines through and helps at least one other person reading this as well as being a cathartic process for myself. As you may or may not know I am currently on the cusp of a huge change in my life. I am essentially getting the chance to start over, start fresh and begin a new life and I am ecstatic about this fact. However, in the process I've learnt that I'm actually a big advocate of what most people refer to as "selfishness". There comes a point in your life where you have to stop worrying about what other people will think or feel and do what is best for you. Unfortunately, this has left me in a position where inevitably, there are going to be some people I have to disappoint.

At the beginning of this year, I really started making the conscious effort to take control of my own life and build a world around me that I was truly happy in. One of the biggest turning points in my journey towards happiness was realising that I had to listen to my own thoughts and stop living my life in a way that other people wanted or expected me to. Over the course of the year I've taken a job that many people tell me I'm wasted in, I've started my own business in the MLM industry which most people believe is a scam or doesn't work and I turned down a "proper graduate job". All this happened because I finally realised that I and I alone know what is best for me, even if other people think they know otherwise. These decisions have all contributed towards making me the increasingly happy and positive person I am today.

Today, I am faced with another crossroads. Last week, two things occurred which made me very happy and increased my self confidence to a point that it hasn't be to in a long time. My happiness however soon dissipated when I realised that I was going to have to have a very difficult conversation with someone and probably lose a good relationship with this person as a result of what has been happening in my life. In fact, especially since I got back to Wakefield after my week off, I have lived in growing terror everyday that this conversation is going to occur.

And do you know what? This is quite frankly ridiculous. The opportunity that arose for me last week is an incredible one which has the power to change my life completely and make my fresh start even better than I initially realised. My boyfriend, my friends, my family are all telling me how great my situation has suddenly become and that I'd be crazy not grab this opportunity with both hands. There is literally one or two people who are going to give me grief for what I've done. I shouldn't be so scared of what other people think and feel when I know that I'd regret it forever if I didn't go for this.

My message to you today is to follow my example. When something comes along that feels so right just do it. The world would be a much better place if we all realised we're allowed to live the life we want xx

Topshop Lipstick in Inhibition [Product Review]

The Topshop Lipstick in the shade Inhibition is the third Topshop lipstick in my collection. My other two are the shades Macaroon and Brighton Rock which  I really like. It's the same with Inhibition, I like this one too. It comes in your standard Topshop Lips packaging. It's not to my personal taste but it's sturdy and keeps my lippy safe in my bag so no complaints there.

The formula isn't perfect. It is slightly drying and it's a weird finish that's not quite matte but now quite as glossy as I like at the moment. It's also one that requires prep before you wear it as is seriously draws attention to any dry patches. That being said it's very long lasting and leaves nice pink stain behind too. With a balm the drying is easy to deal with and with a lip liner, you're not going to get any bleeding.

It's the colour that I really love about this lipstick. A deep purple, it's the perfect gothic lip for me. While not something I wear very often, it's not as scary as I originally thought and I even think it suits me a little bit. If you're looking for an affordable yet decent dark lipstick to try, I'd recommend trying this one.

What do you think of Topshop Lips?

Deja Vu

Outfit Details:
Floral Headband: Prairie Charms
Rose Necklace: hand made
Skull Jumper: Primark
Disco Pants: Primark
Doc Martens: eBay

Makeup Details:
see below!

So, I certainly have a spot of deja vu taking a look at these outfit photos because this outfit is alarmingly similar to one I have already posted, oops. But yes, shockingly, I do wear outfits more than once although admittedly this is slightly different. Hence why I can justify posting it...

My ombre skulls jumper is a firm favourite in my wardrobe. Firstly it's super comfy so I wear it around the house a lot. Secondly, it looks wicked, with it's cool skull print and lovely pink into grey dip dye effect so not only is it a nice lazy day item, I can quite happily wear it outside my house as well.

Last time I posted the jumper on this blog, I wore it with my pink jeans but with the colder weather setting in, my charcoal disco pants are something I am reaching for often. This is actually my second pair as my original eBay pair are unwearable now due to a zip that is way too influenced by gravity. I picked these new ones up in Primark the other day for a fiver and so far, so good! I decided to complete the look with my pink Doc Martens, rose necklace and floral headband. I only ever seem to wear my rose necklace with this jumper and as I like the mix of florals and skulls, I decided to give my floral headband an outing.

As for my makeup, it has, unfortunately, photographed horribly. On Friday I've got video going up demonstrating how I created this look with the stunning Majestic Colour Collection from the limited edition Arbonne Christmas Collection.

Floral Kimono

Outift Details:
Kimono: Missguided
Top: Joe Browns
Disco Pants: eBay
Boots: eBay
Bag: New Look
Necklace: Claire's Accessories

Makeup Details:
Face: Arbonne Primer, Arbonne Foundation, Arbonne Concealer, Arbonne Bare Minerals Translucent Ready Veil
Cheeks: B. Glowing Shimmer Block in Blush, MUA Highlighter
Eyes: MUA Eyeshadow Trio in Pink Sorbet, Barry M Wink Eyeliner, Rimmel Scandaleyes Eyeliner in Nude, Arbonne It's a Long Story Mascara
Lips: MUA One Direction Lipstick in I Wish (Zayn)

First of all, what on earth is going on with my fringe in these photographs?! As much as I love having a shorter funky little fringe, it's really beginning to get on my nerves. Unless I'm extremely lucky and style it at the perfect moment, it's always doing whatever it wants rather than actually looking good which is a bit of a pain. That being said, when it does behave I love my fringe and because I've been getting it cut so short, it means I can go for ages without getting it cut which used to be my biggest pet peeve beforehand. Er, long story short - I'm never going to be quite satisfied am I?

Anyway, onto the outfit. I've worn this a fair few times but the two most important times that stick out to me are my Arbonne Launch Party and my work Christmas Meal last week. Both these occasions were really lovely and I felt my outfit was quite perfect for them. The kimono is one of two I bought during my last shop at Missguided and I'm really pleased. As this one is black with hot pink accents, I figured it was a little more dressy than my other one which I have been wearing during the day. I think paired with my disco pants and my nice plunge front lacy vest top, I have a nice casual night time look going on. 

This is definitely a look I'll wear for years to come. What do you think?