13 Things I Learnt in 2013


I know, I know. You're probably so, so, so sick of New Year's themed posts by now, I myself am on my third is as many days and if I stick to my January posting plan, this isn't even my last I'm afraid! However, I love new year. While I'm a firm believer that you can make a change at any time in your life, you don't have to wait until the New Year to do it, there's just something magical about a brand new year. Everyone is ready to change, everyone seems to be in that self improvement mindset. I myself am always very reflective and inspired at this time of year. For me, 2013 was a year of lessons, and in a way, I learnt more last year than my time in formal education ever taught me. Today, I want to share 13 of the lessons I learnt last year.

  1. There comes a point in your life where you have to learn to trust your own intuition. At the end of the day only you know what is genuinely best for you, no one else can truly tell you that. It is so easy to get distracted by what everyone else is consciously or subconsciously telling you to do, that sometimes you fail to recognise it isn't actually what you want. Tip: if you feel sad for no reasons it's probably because there's an imbalance with what you're doing and what you want to do. This is a sign you're not living for you. Work out which voice in your head is your voice and listen to it. Living my life the way I want to was the huge turning point in my journey towards happiness.
  2. You create your own life. If you believe you have a rubbish life, you will have a rubbish life. If you believe you have an amazing life, you will have an amazing life. It's funny how quickly your life turns around when you stop complaining about how much it sucks. 
  3. Change is the only constant. The more you fear change, the more change you will experience. It is futile to experience change. Embrace change, welcome it into your life. 
  4. Don't strive for perfection, it's setting yourself up for failure. I'm so obsessed with doing everything right that I am always really let down when I don't manage to do something and it just creates unnecessary pain in my life. Strive for your personal best, not perfection. 
  5. When you're recovering from depression, feeling sad is not a failure. The opposite of depression is not being constantly happy. It is perfectly normal, perfectly human, to experience a full range of emotion. In fact, I knew my depression was improving when I started feeling a full range of emotions again, even if not all of them were positive. It is impossible to be happy all the time, and it is perfectly healthy to have down days. Don't beat yourself up because you're not 100% happy 100% of the time. 
  6. My life is better when I remember to take my makeup off at night.
  7. I feel best when I eat nutritious and healthy food, but eating something is always better than eating nothing.
  8. Absolutely anyone can be wealthy if they just know how, and believe me, if you're that bothered about being rich, it's easy enough to work out how to do it. The best bit is you don't even need a J.O.B.
  9. Do not model your own relationships on the relationships of other people. This includes familial relationships, friendships and your romantic relationships. Comparison is bound to end in misery and at the end of the day, only the people involved in a relationship really know the truth of the situation. It has been floating around the internet for ages and isn't original anymore in the slightest, but seriously, "don't compare your behind the scenes to anyone else's highlight reel." To be honest, this doesn't just apply to relationships...
  10. While it's nice to believe in something, such as feminism, your life will actually be so much happier if you stop seeking out things to have a good moan about. By all means call something serious out when you see it, but don't jump on everyone for the tiniest of things and well, just stop being so bloody offended. Watch how your life improves. 
  11. Even the things you want most in life can come with huge doses of stress attached to them, just remember why you want it in the first place and focus on the positive outcome. 
  12. Shopping will not fill the hole in your soul. 
  13. It doesn't matter how badly something starts, you can always, always, always turn it around. Start from scratch if you need to. Just never give up on the things you want in life, whatever that is.
What did you learn 2013?