In December 2015, my on/off boyfriend of nearly five years finally broke up with me for good and I've been single ever since. It didn't take me too long to get over it, and I very quickly realised that I actually love being single. In fact, I love it so much that I wrote an entire post whining about all the people in my life that couldn't seem to grasp that my single life is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

So, now that it has been over two years of being single, how do I feel about the single life?

I still love it. Not only do I feel independent, I enjoy feeling independent. There's very little that I rely on other people for. I like that all my time is mine. I can watch whatever TV show I want, whenever I want. I can pursue my solitary hobbies like reading and swimming with ease. I don't get bored anymore because I'm more than capable of keeping myself amused rather than constantly wanting attention and time from other people.

My mental health is also the best it has been for years. I am a lot calmer and my emotions don't feel like some wild untamed beast anymore. I fully believe this is because I've been avoiding dating and relationships. I have a tendency to grow attached to people a bit too quickly, which opens me up to manipulation and emotional abuse too easily. Because I've not been putting myself in situations where this can happen, I've been able to protect myself while I heal from past wounds and strengthen myself in the process. I really don't miss being messed around by the opposite sex and I think my mental health would take a turn for the worst if I suddenly became desperate to find a boyfriend and started having to deal with the lowlifes on dating apps you always see stories about.

However, I am now slightly more open to the idea of dating and relationships. I have been on a date and I have even been speed dating. Nothing came of either of these things because I still don't think I was in the right mindset at the time but I do find myself now thinking occasionally it might be nice to have that kind of companionship again. The idea of meeting someone organically, and steadily getting to know them and maybe eventually starting a real relationship does sound alright. That being said, I am in no rush to make this happen and certainly won't do anything that can be construed as actively looking for a relationship for a while.

The thing that is most important to me right now is friendship. I'd much rather get closer to my existing friends, and make new friends, rather than go dating and find a boyfriend. I've got such a busy year planned that my life is more than full and comfortable without a romantic partner in it.