I don't know about you, but every time I log onto social media, I am confronted by the idea of the "Girl Boss". All around me, fellow women are "killing it". There are bloggers landing book deals, working with amazing brands and pushing out great content on a daily basis. This places huge emphasis on accomplishment and achievement and I've been constantly asking myself: "do we have to be accomplished?"

Don't get me wrong, I love seeing other people doing well and achieving their dreams. I will never not clap for the people I love when they're absolutely smashing it, but I think this current obsession with "bossing it" can get unhealthy. Everybody needs a break sometimes for the sake of both their mental and physical health. 

I have dreams. I have goals. I want to be successful - but my definition of success is likely very different to your version of success. To me success isn't owning my own business, earning millions, driving a fast car or living in a house that's far too big. I consider myself successful when my basic human needs are taken care of, I can afford to treat myself and I'm happy.

Some of us are much happier just doing enough to put a roof over our heads and food on our table. When I finish work for the day, I have finished work. I'd rather use my free time to pursue the things I enjoy, instead of relentlessly trying to achieve things for the sake of looking accomplished.

We don't have to be girl bosses. We don't all need to hustle 24/7. It's OK if your job is just a job rather than a career that others aspire to. It's absolutely fine if you spend your spare time watching TV or curled up with a novel. You don't have to be working towards a goal every minute, every hour, every day.

I guess the message I am trying to get across is you do you. If "you" is constantly outdoing yourself, then carry on. If you is living a slower, calmer life where you quietly pursue the things you want to pursue, then continue to live your life. You are not any less of a human being if your accomplishments are different the accomplishments of other people.